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IMG_5390The effective use of personal energy is something we are never taught when we are growing up, yet it can make all the difference both in our personal success as well as the business success in our life.

Emily, during a recent retreat at Epona Ridge, had an opportunity to work with Cierba who is the beautiful lead mare in our herd. Emily wanted to enjoy her life more and felt that if she could understand why she was running into so many brick walls, both in communication at work and at home with her husband, that she could make things better.

She said she has a highly demanding career and a manager that doesn’t seem to respect her ideas or enthusiasm for her job. In fact it is quite the opposite, she said she feels like she is almost ignored and it was getting more irritating by the day – to the point where she was considering quitting her job.

Emily choose to work with Cierba and walked straight up to her but got an unexpected response. She was pushed out-of-the-way as Cierba rudely walked past.

Emily was not new to horses but this kind of connection/communication/learning was different from anything she had experienced before.

All of her natural training techniques she had known were clearly not working. Emily expected Cierba to respond in a certain way. What she was learning was that horses, given a mutually respectful environment, try to communicate in a two-way conversation. These horses were clearly not “trained to obey”. They were making their own choices, even the choice to be present or not.

Horses provide living biofeedback for us if we are clever enough to see it. In any given situation that we present, the horses respond with the energy appropriate to the presenter. All of this is done without the human ego and emotion since the horses offer a clear energy of reflection.

Emily thought about what her approaching energy might have felt like to Cierba, how even though she thought she was friendly in her approach, she came to her with expectations and in the process she stepped over the signs of Cierba’s boundaries giving Cierba no choice but to move away.

“Oh this is so much like work’, she said out loud. Cierba was twenty feet away from Emily at this point and she just stood there. Emily took a deep cleansing breath. She was thinking about her work environment and how she was getting more and more intolerant. She recalled a recent episode at work where she tried to explain to her boss about something that they were doing and how it wasn’t working. Her boss, like Cierba, dismissed Emily with her energy. Emily, reflecting on some of the lessons she had been learning in the retreat, thought about where her vibration was.  She felt the energy of starting off with what was wrong, what wasn’t working and began to understand how that might create bigger boundaries to be raised. Creating that vibration, no matter how enthusiastic you may be about the solution, can close doors.

When Emily approached Cierba with what wasn’t working, she got more of the same response without even realizing how her vibration effected everything. It was a mirror of her work environment all right, but the message was about her own energy.

The most interesting thing happened, after a few moments I noticed Cierba licking a chewing, a sign I always look for because I know it means that something significant has just happened or has been discovered.

Emily shared what she had thought. She said she wondered about how she might change her energy in a way that would be more easily heard and even appreciated. This was the underlying desire to the discomfort she was experiencing. She wanted to be valued for her ideas and effort to help improve the company.

Just as Emily was becoming aware of the deeper message, she shifted from a forward stance to a more relaxed and invitational posture. Cierba softened as well and began to approach Emily from across the arena.

Cierba’s eyes were large and inquisitive this time and her ears were forward and attentive to Emily. She stopped within a foot of her and Cierba dropped her head – Emily reached out and gently touched her.

The vibration in the entire arena seemed to shift.

Learning how to effectively modulate our own non-verbal communication (vibration) helps us find the keys to connecting with mutual awareness and respect, no matter who we are with or where we are in our life process.

Learn more about your personal vibration and the non-verbal energy you are emitting all the time. Gain skills to effectively modulate energy in relationships at home and at work in our upcoming retreat: Your Signature Vibration in March, 2014

 

 

 

All Is Well

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Dad’s visit home from rehab after surgery

Yesterday I took my 95-year-old mom back home to wait for my 95-year-old dad who recently had a partial hip replacement from falling and breaking it just before Christmas this year.

There has been an unusual amount of injury and healing around me as of late. Much of that has been with my immediate family of humans and animals. That part just doesn’t seem relevant in the story other than contrast and awareness of how appreciative I am for life.

When I am least expecting, there I find a powerful gift from the Universe.

It was like having the mom I had when I was young… only this time I could give her a piece of the loving sweetness and care she had given me all those years ago.   There are so many facets in the experience that held a deep awareness and two are most prevalent at the moment. One was in the awareness of my vibration and my wish for the experience and the other was a lesson of allowing and faith.

We set up a cozy room where it was easy for mom to maneuver with a walker. Izzy and Gus, our Goldendoodles, daily took turns bringing her their toys and getting a sweet pet in return. Mom is mostly blind in one eye, advanced macular degeneration in the other but her spirit is strong and like her mother before her, she is fierce with determination which my dad calls “stubborn” as he smiles…

She wanted to go home and couldn’t wait three more days until my dad got out of rehab so we were faced with a difficult decision. She had not been alone for over 35 years, with her vision severely impaired and using a walker, my dad did most everything for her. One could say overbearing but he would say it was always out of love. Never-the-less she wanted to go home by herself, no more caregivers – just her peace and quiet. The last three weeks of the injury, surgery, and constant discussion was coming to a close, dad was healing and mom wanted to do the same.

The only thing was that we didn’t want to let her go, we were afraid for her safety though we had taken every precaution we could. She was determined and her spirit begged for independence.

My dad remembers when she thought she could still drive the golf cart and went off on her own. That didn’t end well but she didn’t know until she tried.

Herein lies the lesson and it has to do with allowing others to find their own boundaries, being there with loving support when asked versus trying to control, preserving dignity and spirit, and having faith while empowering those we love as best we can… young and old.

I called to check in on her this morning… all is well.

Do you selectively sift out the stuff that brings you down?

I made a decision a long time ago that I wanted to create a life that made a difference, one that made my heart sing, and inspired me to reach for more.

Now more than ever I have found that joy is directly created from the frequency of emotion I have indulged through my thought.

So what do you do when you run into a thought about the future, a current glaring situation or something in your past that brings you discomfort?

It requires selective sifting.

If I am going to attract the things I want to have in my life it requires that I am aware of the way I am feeling/thinking all of the time, especially in those moments when my focus drifts into something discomforting instead of helpful.

 

Selective sifting… the things we choose to talk about, think about, television shows, emails, books, clients, friends, family, the food we eat and the rest we give ourselves… all of of these are components of your life and have a cumulative effect.

We are always building momentum – but here’s the key, it is a choice as to which direction, helpful or discomforting, that your momentum is gaining. If you want to know which direction at any given time you can easily tell by how you feel. How you feel is a direct reflection of your thoughts and an indicator of what you will be manifesting in your life. Here is what I am learning:

Practice selectively sifting out the things and thoughts that create discomfort in your past, present or future.
Be diligent in your focus towards the things that you appreciate and spend time every day expanding that focus.

Surround yourself with those with the same intent so that you continue to build momentum that expands your beautiful world in the now!

- See more at: http://www.eponaridge.com/articles/190-selective-sifting-absolutely#sthash.8NV1rm5C.dpuf

woman on a pathToday I was reminded again how very important our own self-care ritual is but for a whole new reason.

Some of you have responded and shared what you do for your daily routine but have you found that you are doing it daily?

Everyday?

Really?

The self care routine helps us ground and be open to new and deeper awareness and peace but it can also do something far greater.

Does that routine actively open the lines of communication with you and your Source, God, Goddess, the Divine, Allah, the Universe?

One of the things I recently noticed about myself was my desire to get things that I have to do done. In writing this I can hear Sonya, one of my EA students this year who said, “But I am only ONE girl!”

Have you ever thought that?

One of the key things I noted when I felt this way was that I was trying to do EVERYTHING myself, having all the information in my head and trying to figure it out, organize it and make it happen.

Ahhh grasshopper, but we are all given a choice aren’t we… we can do it all on our own or we can ask for help.

The crazy thing was that I had forgotten the KEY factor in our journey of life.

We are not alone.

I had forgotten to ask for help. I had been so busy trying to figure out how to fix a situation that felt bad that I forgot I could ask for help.

What would it feel like to ask the Divine for help in all situations? How about including that in your daily routine? What if you asked that in every situation you encounter today, that the Divine feel free to help support you and work through you in all that you do or don’t do?

There are infinite possibilities for us if we are open and just ask for help for ourselves and for those we care about. But here is the caveat, after you have asked – you have to trust, have faith, believe… and then let it go.

Are you willing to do that?

Completely?

Barbara_Alexander_thumbnailBarbara Alexander is President and Founder of The Sacred You Academy at Epona Ridge - a magical place where women have come for years to gain insight about their inner lives and seek a greater awareness of their hearts’ true calling. Barbara serves as their mentor and guide as her retreat participants go through their individual journeys towards true happiness, joy and inner peace.

Barbara has worked with over a thousand people as a spiritual life and business coach, teaching transformational techniques that shift core energy awareness providing a more joyous life experience.

After many years of a successful career as a business executive, Barbara has dedicated her personal and professional life to mentoring women and men, in building their life as well as their business with a stronger foundation for wellbeing and personal fulfillment.

Barbara provides techniques for enhancing the mind/body connection, personal core energy awareness and personal empowerment. You will love the feelings of rejuvenation and inspiration that you experience at the Epona Ridge Retreats.

Barbara Alexander
Epona Ridge LLC
Asheville, NC
For more information: http://www.SacredYouAcademy.com
Info@EponaRidge.com

Are you standing on a sphere or a flat plane?

I had been talking with a friend about the moon and she asked if I had noticed that the moon seemed to be filling up from the bottom, verses going through the various moon phases as it has always done, vertically.  She wondered if this was an indication of the “big change” that we are going through.

I immediately contacted a friend who is an astronomer and found yet another Universal sign along my journey…

He said, “Your friend may be seeing the moon when it is close to the horizon.  At that position, the Moon will appear to be waxing or waning in a more horizontal way.  But when the moon is high in the sky, it will appear to be waxing or waning in a more vertical way.  This has to do with the Earth’s rotation causing all objects in the sky (planets, the Moon, the Sun and the constellations) to change their angle of perspective, primarily because we are standing on a sphere and not a flat plane.”

I have lived under this sky for many many years, yet I had never noticed the Universe from that perspective.  In other words, I didn’t know what I was seeing all these years because I hadn’t noticed it and hadn’t focused on it and I definitely hadn’t seen the correlation to our lives here on Earth.

I guess you could say that many of us don’t see things until we are ready to see them, like the Universal connection to all that is. A simple explanation shifted my perspective. What seemed like a mysterious occurrence in the moment, became a comfort in understanding the flow of our Universe.

All is well… sometimes we just need to be curious about what we think we see, because maybe we are verging on a new expansion of awareness…

The world shifting on its own rotation is a natural occurrence, happens all the time and most of us never notice it.  Our perspective of the Universe from the Earth, shifts along with it if we are curious and paying attention.

Could this be part of the “Big Change” some people are referring to?  Could it be that part of the big change is OUR PERSPECTIVE and KNOWLEDGE of what is right here for us to see?

Another question came up for me.  As we shift the perspectives within ourselves, could it be that our world will shiftaround us?  For many, it’s like we have been focusing from a “flat plane” and now we are finding that we have always been living on a “sphere.”

Click Here for information on programs at The Sacred You Academy.

Barbara_Alexander_thumbnailBarbara Alexander is President and Founder of The Sacred You Academy at Epona Ridge – a magical place where women have come for years to gain insight about their inner lives and seek a greater awareness of their hearts’ true calling. Barbara serves as their mentor and guide as her retreat participants go through their individual journeys towards true happiness, joy and inner peace.

Barbara has worked with over a thousand people as a spiritual life and business coach, teaching transformational techniques that shift core energy awareness providing a more joyous life experience.

After many years of a successful career as a business executive, Barbara has dedicated her personal and professional life to mentoring women and men, in building their life as well as their business with a stronger foundation for wellbeing and personal fulfillment.

Barbara provides techniques for enhancing the mind/body connection, personal core energy awareness and personal empowerment. You will love the feelings of rejuvenation and inspiration that you experience at the Epona Ridge Retreats.

Barbara Alexander

Epona Ridge LLC

Asheville, NC

For more information: http://www.EponaRidge.com

Info@EponaRidge.com

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We have heard from the great grandmothers who have passed down wisdom for generations that it is time; we have heard it in the ancient teachings of Native Americans and other indigenous peoples. Many of you already know why you are here, we have known about this calling from deep within our hearts for centuries.

 

Now is the time for the feminine voice of leadership to expand and bring light into our world.

 

I am a leader in this community because of my experience from a lifetime of seeking to understand and expand the heart’s connection between our human experience and our greater divine nature in connection to all things. This power of the feminine voice of leadership deep within all of us is calling to both man and woman alike.

Many of you know that horses are prey animals while humans are predators, and over the ages we have learned that predators dominate. But who really wins when life is about domination? May I suggest that life is more about co-creation, leadership most definitely, but co-creation at it’s best creates results far beyond any great leader. Maybe we have something to learn from horses about leadership that we never saw until now.

 

A successful team moves as one, like horses in a herd, but in the business world where survival of the fittest has caused separation, there is distrust at immense cost to businesses everywhere due to high turnover, infighting, and dysfunction. Most managers end up spending their days managing the many problems that occur instead of creating an environment that is set up to self-direct, expand and thrive.

 

Recently I had the opportunity to be involved in a forum discussion about the frustrations for women in leadership today. When the conversation got going it quickly turned into anger about their work environment, inequality and the lack of personal value that was felt.

 

There is so much passion and heart innately in women, heart in the commitment to do a great job at being the best we can be as an executive at work, a wife and mother at home, as a caregiver in life even if it leaves us with little time and energy left over for ourselves.

 

Women are wired differently than most men and we have the capacity for great vision, a compassionate vision that comes from what we Know deep within our souls. If we have the tools to get really clear on that vision and are able to communicate with emotional intelligence and healthy co-creative business skills, the world will change to support that vision.

 

Being able to create a business through leadership that builds trust and feeds the strengths of each member, you will enable an authentic community based in self-empowerment and personal responsibility among your team. Expanding your personal intuition gives you the needed insight to read non-verbal communication, thereby leading in a way that supports the ebb and flow occurring everyday, and through a set of simple tools you can learn how to gain a vast amount of information that you currently miss through the intellect alone.

 

After working with over a thousand women through my own business in creating retreats, as well as multiple thousands of corporate teams and leaders over twenty years creating performance improvement for businesses in fortune 500 companies, I have learned what cripples women, both personally and professionally in organizations and how, if we really want to make a difference and create a world that thrives, we can make the change we truly want and need to see.

 

I understand these truths:

 

1) To co-facilitate with the Universe is a humbling place to align life and career.

 

2) When given the proper tools and an empowering vibrational space to expand our Be-ingness, each of us finds our divine connection that holds the secrets and gifts to create the life and career that brings us inspiration and joy.

 

3) There is a short path and a long path to thriving and finding personal fulfillment in this world, either way you will get there if that is your desire. I have no attachment to anyone’s path but my own.

 

4) Most of us were never taught how to modulate or effectively use our own energy and can either end up overstepping, causing separation and distrust, or getting lost in the shuffle and aggression of others. This is what causes dysfunction and ultimately dis-ease of an individual or an organization.

 

5) When you learn how to effectively work with your own energy and vibration of others, you greatly improve all your relationships at home and at work. From there positive energy ripples out into the world and it is contagious.

 

6) The gifts that the horses and I bring are but one part of a greater journey to awakening the divine light of the leader that is within us all. As a horse and human facilitating team, we teach at a cellular level, organic with each client, and from there the sky is the limit.

Click Here for information on programs at The Sacred You Academy.

Barbara_Alexander_thumbnailBarbara Alexander is President and Founder of The Sacred You Academy at Epona Ridge – a magical place where women have come for years to gain insight about their inner lives and seek a greater awareness of their hearts’ true calling. Barbara serves as their mentor and guide as her retreat participants go through their individual journeys towards true happiness, joy and inner peace.

Barbara has worked with over a thousand people as a spiritual life and business coach, teaching transformational techniques that shift core energy awareness providing a more joyous life experience.

After many years of a successful career as a business executive, Barbara has dedicated her personal and professional life to mentoring women and men, in building their life as well as their business with a stronger foundation for wellbeing and personal fulfillment.

Barbara provides techniques for enhancing the mind/body connection, personal core energy awareness and personal empowerment. You will love the feelings of rejuvenation and inspiration that you experience at the Epona Ridge Retreats.

Barbara Alexander

Epona Ridge LLC

Asheville, NC

For more information: http://www.EponaRidge.com

Info@EponaRidge.com

Is your life waiting for you to come out and play?

  

I decided to post an email that I received this week from a wonderful woman asking the same question that I have been hearing more and more:

“2013 may just be the year for me to visit. Sadly I am realizing my current employment is not the best platform for my gifts. Frustrated, I am on the cusp of submitting my notice and pursuing my MA in Organizational Leadership. My work place is angry, my husband is angry… and yet I know I am at an impasse with my current job. Money isn’t everything in my world… Although it is in theirs.

My courage to move forward is at an all time low, and yet I sense a change is imminent. Wish I had better tools to reinforce my yearnings to separate and forage on from my current position.
So curious if others feel the same. Are others reflecting to you a similar intuitive sense? “ 

First of all thank you for your heartfelt email. I have heard this more often than you think and most intimately from my own experience when, as Dr. Wayne Dyer said in the movie The Shift,  I transitioned from a life of ambition to a life of meaning.

Here are some of the keys I have found to make this time flow with more grace and clarity:

1) Celebrate the change that is coming your way. You can rest in the fact that you have put the energy of change in motion. You know that change is coming but maybe you’re not exactly sure what that is or how it will look. This is perfectly OK, you have put the wheels in motion and the Universe will help you find the next perfect step. 

 

As this part of your life continues to unfold your intuition will become more clear which will be evidenced by added comfort in this process. Always check in with yourself to feel what feels heavier and what feels lighter. Following your intuition will always feel lighter.

2) Take the time to honor this transition in your life. A wonderful way to honor yourself in this process is by creating ceremony to let go of the things that no longer serve you and then open to the things you want to bring into your life. Write these things on individual pieces of paper and then burn them one at a time as you read them aloud. 

First you let go of all of it and then you bring in what you desire. For example you might write “I am ready to let go of all of the anger that surrounds me, all of the negativity I feel in the office, all of the resentment I feel in my job…” 

 

When you are ready to honor the things you want to bring into your life you might say “I look forward to the life my heart is calling me to live, I am stepping forward into finding a lifework that values me and my unique gifts, I treasure the relationship of mutual love and respect, I am moving closer to a life that I love that is filled with joy, I know that I will thrive in this world that I co-create with those I love…”

3) The key to a smoother and quicker transition – FIND SUPPORT. I wish I could go back and hold my own hand through this process when I went through it in my life. This is a sacred time to take the inner journey, it is like a rite-of-passage when you learn to find clarity and direction for the life you choose to live. 

 

Once you create an opening for new and lighter energy you build a vibrational foundation for infinite possibilities and a joyous life, your entire experience will shift around you to support you on your path. 

 

So, when you think of going back to school, it should truly make your heart sing because it is something you have always wanted in your life. If it isn’t, and it is just something you think will be a better degree then there may be another possibility out there for you that will be even more aligned with your spirit. The clearer you get about your intuitive awareness the easier it will be to follow the signs. 

4) Allow for the gentle flow of change by asking for ease in this process. Many times there are ways to help with the current situation that will bring more peace and balance as you begin to explore and move forward in the areas where your heart is calling you forward. This doesn’t have to take a long time but it is best to have ease in this process for your own sanity.

The fact is that there is so much more waiting for us once we learn how to get the messages and clarity in our life. Everyday is a new experience, everyday you have the choice to make things the way you want them to be. We are the only captors in our life and we have the ability to free those self imposed blocks to find our joy. 

I am so glad you shared that you are feeling this increased intuitive sense. It is a powerful time when many are feeling that same calling to step up, realign and listen within. It is a very exciting time, a threshold to the joy that is yet to come!  

 

As always,please remember to share this with a friend that you feel might enjoy the heart-filled programs we have at The Sacred You, an academy for women.

 

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