I have recently started the Course in Miracles study again and am finding a new awareness and comfort as these first lessons unfold.

Marianne Williamson’s says in her reflections on a Course in Miracles, “There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.”

Hmmm, “There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking”… and it occurred to me that there are so many ways we do that shrinky thing – even if we are far from being a shrinky person.

In the past when I have opened to a new direction I’ve experienced times of fear (is this the right thing), doubt (can I actually do this, I don’t understand it all yet), excitement (I love the idea and I can feel my heart calling me in this direction), anticipation (I can almost feel a life for myself that is joyous and overflowing with possibility)… But…

Do I close my eyes and jump?

I can remember some of the conflicting feelings I have had when contemplating a new path. Stepping out towards the unknown can feel pretty scary, triggering fear and the desire to find comfort in what’s known.

Some of my most powerful leaps in learning have come from stepping out of my comfort zone but my deepest and greatest growth comes from the peace of inner knowing found when I am in alignment with my heart and soul.

Now that I have learned how to tune in to the Sacred part of me, change doesn’t feel as much like a risk anymore. If there is a risk it is in doing nothing and staying the same because I am missing the inspiration that is calling to me.

We don’t have all the answers when we are reaching for more in our lives; we wouldn’t be reaching if we did… and reaching is how we grow.

This is what we came here to do – we came here to learn and grow and enjoy our lives in the process.

The heart is always guiding us to take the steps forward along our journey, we just need to learn how to tune into that heart-aligned inspiration.

Marianne concludes: “And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

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todayEponaRidgeIn an article I recently read about transitions in life, they said that sometimes a part of us must die before another part can come to life. During those transitions we may have faced times when we have had to say good-bye to something in order to grow.

I can remember times in my life that I had to say good-bye or change things that felt painful to me. I find that my memories have softened with time but when transition meets resistance, our experience can be frustrating and very confusing.

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In an article I recently read about transitions in life, they said that sometimes a part of us must die before another part can come to life. During those transitions we may have faced times when we have had to say good-bye to something in order to grow.

I can remember times in my life that I had to say good-bye or change things that felt painful to me. I find that my memories have softened with time but when transition meets resistance, our experience can be frustrating and very confusing.
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IMG_5390The effective use of personal energy is something we are never taught when we are growing up, yet it can make all the difference both in our personal success as well as the business success in our life.

Emily, during a recent retreat at Epona Ridge, had an opportunity to work with Cierba who is the beautiful lead mare in our herd. Emily wanted to enjoy her life more and felt that if she could understand why she was running into so many brick walls, both in communication at work and at home with her husband, that she could make things better.

She said she has a highly demanding career and a manager that doesn’t seem to respect her ideas or enthusiasm for her job. In fact it is quite the opposite, she said she feels like she is almost ignored and it was getting more irritating by the day – to the point where she was considering quitting her job.

Emily choose to work with Cierba and walked straight up to her but got an unexpected response. She was pushed out-of-the-way as Cierba rudely walked past.

Emily was not new to horses but this kind of connection/communication/learning was different from anything she had experienced before.

All of her natural training techniques she had known were clearly not working. Emily expected Cierba to respond in a certain way. What she was learning was that horses, given a mutually respectful environment, try to communicate in a two-way conversation. These horses were clearly not “trained to obey”. They were making their own choices, even the choice to be present or not.

Horses provide living biofeedback for us if we are clever enough to see it. In any given situation that we present, the horses respond with the energy appropriate to the presenter. All of this is done without the human ego and emotion since the horses offer a clear energy of reflection.

Emily thought about what her approaching energy might have felt like to Cierba, how even though she thought she was friendly in her approach, she came to her with expectations and in the process she stepped over the signs of Cierba’s boundaries giving Cierba no choice but to move away.

“Oh this is so much like work’, she said out loud. Cierba was twenty feet away from Emily at this point and she just stood there. Emily took a deep cleansing breath. She was thinking about her work environment and how she was getting more and more intolerant. She recalled a recent episode at work where she tried to explain to her boss about something that they were doing and how it wasn’t working. Her boss, like Cierba, dismissed Emily with her energy. Emily, reflecting on some of the lessons she had been learning in the retreat, thought about where her vibration was.  She felt the energy of starting off with what was wrong, what wasn’t working and began to understand how that might create bigger boundaries to be raised. Creating that vibration, no matter how enthusiastic you may be about the solution, can close doors.

When Emily approached Cierba with what wasn’t working, she got more of the same response without even realizing how her vibration effected everything. It was a mirror of her work environment all right, but the message was about her own energy.

The most interesting thing happened, after a few moments I noticed Cierba licking a chewing, a sign I always look for because I know it means that something significant has just happened or has been discovered.

Emily shared what she had thought. She said she wondered about how she might change her energy in a way that would be more easily heard and even appreciated. This was the underlying desire to the discomfort she was experiencing. She wanted to be valued for her ideas and effort to help improve the company.

Just as Emily was becoming aware of the deeper message, she shifted from a forward stance to a more relaxed and invitational posture. Cierba softened as well and began to approach Emily from across the arena.

Cierba’s eyes were large and inquisitive this time and her ears were forward and attentive to Emily. She stopped within a foot of her and Cierba dropped her head – Emily reached out and gently touched her.

The vibration in the entire arena seemed to shift.

Learning how to effectively modulate our own non-verbal communication (vibration) helps us find the keys to connecting with mutual awareness and respect, no matter who we are with or where we are in our life process.

Learn more about your personal vibration and the non-verbal energy you are emitting all the time. Gain skills to effectively modulate energy in relationships at home and at work in our upcoming retreat: Your Signature Vibration in March, 2014




All Is Well


Dad’s visit home from rehab after surgery

Yesterday I took my 95-year-old mom back home to wait for my 95-year-old dad who recently had a partial hip replacement from falling and breaking it just before Christmas this year.

There has been an unusual amount of injury and healing around me as of late. Much of that has been with my immediate family of humans and animals. That part just doesn’t seem relevant in the story other than contrast and awareness of how appreciative I am for life.

When I am least expecting, there I find a powerful gift from the Universe.

It was like having the mom I had when I was young… only this time I could give her a piece of the loving sweetness and care she had given me all those years ago.   There are so many facets in the experience that held a deep awareness and two are most prevalent at the moment. One was in the awareness of my vibration and my wish for the experience and the other was a lesson of allowing and faith.

We set up a cozy room where it was easy for mom to maneuver with a walker. Izzy and Gus, our Goldendoodles, daily took turns bringing her their toys and getting a sweet pet in return. Mom is mostly blind in one eye, advanced macular degeneration in the other but her spirit is strong and like her mother before her, she is fierce with determination which my dad calls “stubborn” as he smiles…

She wanted to go home and couldn’t wait three more days until my dad got out of rehab so we were faced with a difficult decision. She had not been alone for over 35 years, with her vision severely impaired and using a walker, my dad did most everything for her. One could say overbearing but he would say it was always out of love. Never-the-less she wanted to go home by herself, no more caregivers – just her peace and quiet. The last three weeks of the injury, surgery, and constant discussion was coming to a close, dad was healing and mom wanted to do the same.

The only thing was that we didn’t want to let her go, we were afraid for her safety though we had taken every precaution we could. She was determined and her spirit begged for independence.

My dad remembers when she thought she could still drive the golf cart and went off on her own. That didn’t end well but she didn’t know until she tried.

Herein lies the lesson and it has to do with allowing others to find their own boundaries, being there with loving support when asked versus trying to control, preserving dignity and spirit, and having faith while empowering those we love as best we can… young and old.

I called to check in on her this morning… all is well.

Do you selectively sift out the stuff that brings you down?

I made a decision a long time ago that I wanted to create a life that made a difference, one that made my heart sing, and inspired me to reach for more.

Now more than ever I have found that joy is directly created from the frequency of emotion I have indulged through my thought.

So what do you do when you run into a thought about the future, a current glaring situation or something in your past that brings you discomfort?

It requires selective sifting.

If I am going to attract the things I want to have in my life it requires that I am aware of the way I am feeling/thinking all of the time, especially in those moments when my focus drifts into something discomforting instead of helpful.


Selective sifting… the things we choose to talk about, think about, television shows, emails, books, clients, friends, family, the food we eat and the rest we give ourselves… all of of these are components of your life and have a cumulative effect.

We are always building momentum – but here’s the key, it is a choice as to which direction, helpful or discomforting, that your momentum is gaining. If you want to know which direction at any given time you can easily tell by how you feel. How you feel is a direct reflection of your thoughts and an indicator of what you will be manifesting in your life. Here is what I am learning:

Practice selectively sifting out the things and thoughts that create discomfort in your past, present or future.
Be diligent in your focus towards the things that you appreciate and spend time every day expanding that focus.

Surround yourself with those with the same intent so that you continue to build momentum that expands your beautiful world in the now!

– See more at: http://www.eponaridge.com/articles/190-selective-sifting-absolutely#sthash.8NV1rm5C.dpuf

woman on a pathToday I was reminded again how very important our own self-care ritual is but for a whole new reason.

Some of you have responded and shared what you do for your daily routine but have you found that you are doing it daily?



The self care routine helps us ground and be open to new and deeper awareness and peace but it can also do something far greater.

Does that routine actively open the lines of communication with you and your Source, God, Goddess, the Divine, Allah, the Universe?

One of the things I recently noticed about myself was my desire to get things that I have to do done. In writing this I can hear Sonya, one of my EA students this year who said, “But I am only ONE girl!”

Have you ever thought that?

One of the key things I noted when I felt this way was that I was trying to do EVERYTHING myself, having all the information in my head and trying to figure it out, organize it and make it happen.

Ahhh grasshopper, but we are all given a choice aren’t we… we can do it all on our own or we can ask for help.

The crazy thing was that I had forgotten the KEY factor in our journey of life.

We are not alone.

I had forgotten to ask for help. I had been so busy trying to figure out how to fix a situation that felt bad that I forgot I could ask for help.

What would it feel like to ask the Divine for help in all situations? How about including that in your daily routine? What if you asked that in every situation you encounter today, that the Divine feel free to help support you and work through you in all that you do or don’t do?

There are infinite possibilities for us if we are open and just ask for help for ourselves and for those we care about. But here is the caveat, after you have asked – you have to trust, have faith, believe… and then let it go.

Are you willing to do that?


Barbara_Alexander_thumbnailBarbara Alexander is President and Founder of The Sacred You Academy at Epona Ridge – a magical place where women have come for years to gain insight about their inner lives and seek a greater awareness of their hearts’ true calling. Barbara serves as their mentor and guide as her retreat participants go through their individual journeys towards true happiness, joy and inner peace.

Barbara has worked with over a thousand people as a spiritual life and business coach, teaching transformational techniques that shift core energy awareness providing a more joyous life experience.

After many years of a successful career as a business executive, Barbara has dedicated her personal and professional life to mentoring women and men, in building their life as well as their business with a stronger foundation for wellbeing and personal fulfillment.

Barbara provides techniques for enhancing the mind/body connection, personal core energy awareness and personal empowerment. You will love the feelings of rejuvenation and inspiration that you experience at the Epona Ridge Retreats.

Barbara Alexander
Epona Ridge LLC
Asheville, NC
For more information: http://www.SacredYouAcademy.com


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