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By Barbara Alexander

I believe an inner calling comes to each of us in subtle ways and the subtlety of that calling becomes the song of our heart. Our job, should we desire to find our greatest potential, is to learn how to listen.

When our lives are filled with the busyness of things we have to do, and when it goes on for days on end, we may forget that we have created it all by the choices we’ve made.

Abraham-Hicks shared at a recent conference that as human beings we always have choice, our lives are based in freedom – even the freedom to choose bondage.

Why would anyone choose bondage?

Then I remembered when my life felt as if it were running on autopilot and I was living in reaction to life just trying to keep up. Somehow my life became living in response to all the things that I had created including my long list of to-dos, my family, the bills, our home, my work, and all of the other choices in my life… at some point I had begun to believe that I was stuck and the momentum of “stuckness” had been building for some time.

In my experience the still small voice began to get louder and louder. Some can hear it in the beginning and respond by changing and realigning their lives, while others try to ignore the symptoms and push on thinking that things will change for the better someday in the future. Many, those who choose to ignore their own well being, experience less than subtle manifestations of that inner voice and guidance so that it has no choice but to escalate to a louder awareness. This can result in physical messages like a lack of enthusiasm either at work or at home, low energy or physical pain and/or sickness.

In retrospect I had known deep down for some time that I couldn’t go on living in this way but the outward manifestation seemed to be working and my drive towards what I thought was success overrode my attention to the intuitive voice that was trying to guide me in another direction.

What I have learned from the many people I’ve worked with over the years is that the sense of off-ness is a message from your soul calling you to shift something in order to move forward with greater ease.

Our ability to tune in and listen to your intuitive guidance is called intuitive intelligence and it is the only way to awaken to the wholeness that is potentially you. There is an ever-expanding intelligence of “mind” when you allow yourself to choose the life path that is infinitely more fulfilling.

Words like mind-body connection have implied that thought is directly connected to our physical well-being. In other words, our thoughts impact the health and well-being of our bodies. It has been a subject of scientific study for years and we have found that our thoughts directly and cumulatively impact our body’s health, ability to heal and physical potential. But there is even more that we are learning.

We now know that what we think of others also impacts well-being and based on the vibrational level of our thoughts and intensions, the affect will be positive (bringing us closer) or negative (creating the sense of separation).

From the experiential work with horses and our newest studies of leadership we are finding the effects of heart-based intention over goal orientation. The work of both Linda Kohanov in her newest book The Power of the Herd and Frederic Pignon and Magali Delgado, who have dedicated their lives to the mastery of self alignment and co-creation with stallions, have most recently offered profound insight towards an even greater understanding in how to become a great leader that others want to follow.

Our intention speaks volumes of involuntary, non-verbal communication and those who are around us are the recipients of that information all the time.

Through scientific studies at Heartmath Institute we have found more about the heart’s coherence with electromagnetometers (EMA) leading to the factual proof of non-verbal energy that emits from our bodies all the time. The horses have also clearly responded to dissonance by turning away from humans in those circumstances where previously they would choose to stay close. This not only verified the natural response of discomfort, but possibly even more importantly, it pointed out the natural instinct and desire for cohesion and alignment within a coherent group.

If we choose to live with incoherence between our own mind and heart we are in essence choosing to live with vibrational dissonance within our bodies. In effect we are stepping away from our own alignment and in so doing we will eventually deplete our resources and fail. The simplicity of our system is astounding and the potential for human expansion is infinite.

What if this is just another tip of the iceberg?

What if our bodies could actually help us to tap into infinite intelligence through our own intuitive intelligence?

Is it possible that our bodies are trying to provide us with necessary information? What if that information offers us the keys to life expansion and ultimate joy?

What if we find a connection to greater wisdom through learning how to listen and align with our intuitive intelligence as leaders of others and in our own lives? It would mean that we could open to our dreams once again and with that, anything is possible!


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I have recently started the Course in Miracles study again and am finding a new awareness and comfort as these first lessons unfold.

Marianne Williamson’s says in her reflections on a Course in Miracles, “There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.”

Hmmm, “There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking”… and it occurred to me that there are so many ways we do that shrinky thing – even if we are far from being a shrinky person.

In the past when I have opened to a new direction I’ve experienced times of fear (is this the right thing), doubt (can I actually do this, I don’t understand it all yet), excitement (I love the idea and I can feel my heart calling me in this direction), anticipation (I can almost feel a life for myself that is joyous and overflowing with possibility)… But…

Do I close my eyes and jump?

I can remember some of the conflicting feelings I have had when contemplating a new path. Stepping out towards the unknown can feel pretty scary, triggering fear and the desire to find comfort in what’s known.

Some of my most powerful leaps in learning have come from stepping out of my comfort zone but my deepest and greatest growth comes from the peace of inner knowing found when I am in alignment with my heart and soul.

Now that I have learned how to tune in to the Sacred part of me, change doesn’t feel as much like a risk anymore. If there is a risk it is in doing nothing and staying the same because I am missing the inspiration that is calling to me.

We don’t have all the answers when we are reaching for more in our lives; we wouldn’t be reaching if we did… and reaching is how we grow.

This is what we came here to do – we came here to learn and grow and enjoy our lives in the process.

The heart is always guiding us to take the steps forward along our journey, we just need to learn how to tune into that heart-aligned inspiration.

Marianne concludes: “And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

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todayEponaRidgeIn an article I recently read about transitions in life, they said that sometimes a part of us must die before another part can come to life. During those transitions we may have faced times when we have had to say good-bye to something in order to grow.

I can remember times in my life that I had to say good-bye or change things that felt painful to me. I find that my memories have softened with time but when transition meets resistance, our experience can be frustrating and very confusing.


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In an article I recently read about transitions in life, they said that sometimes a part of us must die before another part can come to life. During those transitions we may have faced times when we have had to say good-bye to something in order to grow.

I can remember times in my life that I had to say good-bye or change things that felt painful to me. I find that my memories have softened with time but when transition meets resistance, our experience can be frustrating and very confusing.

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Dad’s visit home from rehab after surgery

Yesterday I took my 95-year-old mom back home to wait for my 95-year-old dad who recently had a partial hip replacement from falling and breaking it just before Christmas this year.

There has been an unusual amount of injury and healing around me as of late. Much of that has been with my immediate family of humans and animals. That part just doesn’t seem relevant in the story other than contrast and awareness of how appreciative I am for life.

When I am least expecting, there I find a powerful gift from the Universe.

It was like having the mom I had when I was young… only this time I could give her a piece of the loving sweetness and care she had given me all those years ago.   There are so many facets in the experience that held a deep awareness and two are most prevalent at the moment. One was in the awareness of my vibration and my wish for the experience and the other was a lesson of allowing and faith.

We set up a cozy room where it was easy for mom to maneuver with a walker. Izzy and Gus, our Goldendoodles, daily took turns bringing her their toys and getting a sweet pet in return. Mom is mostly blind in one eye, advanced macular degeneration in the other but her spirit is strong and like her mother before her, she is fierce with determination which my dad calls “stubborn” as he smiles…

She wanted to go home and couldn’t wait three more days until my dad got out of rehab so we were faced with a difficult decision. She had not been alone for over 35 years, with her vision severely impaired and using a walker, my dad did most everything for her. One could say overbearing but he would say it was always out of love. Never-the-less she wanted to go home by herself, no more caregivers – just her peace and quiet. The last three weeks of the injury, surgery, and constant discussion was coming to a close, dad was healing and mom wanted to do the same.

The only thing was that we didn’t want to let her go, we were afraid for her safety though we had taken every precaution we could. She was determined and her spirit begged for independence.

My dad remembers when she thought she could still drive the golf cart and went off on her own. That didn’t end well but she didn’t know until she tried.

Herein lies the lesson and it has to do with allowing others to find their own boundaries, being there with loving support when asked versus trying to control, preserving dignity and spirit, and having faith while empowering those we love as best we can… young and old.

I called to check in on her this morning… all is well.

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Do you selectively sift out the stuff that brings you down?

I made a decision a long time ago that I wanted to create a life that made a difference, one that made my heart sing, and inspired me to reach for more.

Now more than ever I have found that joy is directly created from the frequency of emotion I have indulged through my thought.

So what do you do when you run into a thought about the future, a current glaring situation or something in your past that brings you discomfort?

It requires selective sifting.

If I am going to attract the things I want to have in my life it requires that I am aware of the way I am feeling/thinking all of the time, especially in those moments when my focus drifts into something discomforting instead of helpful.


Selective sifting… the things we choose to talk about, think about, television shows, emails, books, clients, friends, family, the food we eat and the rest we give ourselves… all of of these are components of your life and have a cumulative effect.

We are always building momentum – but here’s the key, it is a choice as to which direction, helpful or discomforting, that your momentum is gaining. If you want to know which direction at any given time you can easily tell by how you feel. How you feel is a direct reflection of your thoughts and an indicator of what you will be manifesting in your life. Here is what I am learning:

Practice selectively sifting out the things and thoughts that create discomfort in your past, present or future.
Be diligent in your focus towards the things that you appreciate and spend time every day expanding that focus.

Surround yourself with those with the same intent so that you continue to build momentum that expands your beautiful world in the now!

– See more at: http://www.eponaridge.com/articles/190-selective-sifting-absolutely#sthash.8NV1rm5C.dpuf

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We have heard from the great grandmothers who have passed down wisdom for generations that it is time; we have heard it in the ancient teachings of Native Americans and other indigenous peoples. Many of you already know why you are here, we have known about this calling from deep within our hearts for centuries.


Now is the time for the feminine voice of leadership to expand and bring light into our world.


I am a leader in this community because of my experience from a lifetime of seeking to understand and expand the heart’s connection between our human experience and our greater divine nature in connection to all things. This power of the feminine voice of leadership deep within all of us is calling to both man and woman alike.

Many of you know that horses are prey animals while humans are predators, and over the ages we have learned that predators dominate. But who really wins when life is about domination? May I suggest that life is more about co-creation, leadership most definitely, but co-creation at it’s best creates results far beyond any great leader. Maybe we have something to learn from horses about leadership that we never saw until now.


A successful team moves as one, like horses in a herd, but in the business world where survival of the fittest has caused separation, there is distrust at immense cost to businesses everywhere due to high turnover, infighting, and dysfunction. Most managers end up spending their days managing the many problems that occur instead of creating an environment that is set up to self-direct, expand and thrive.


Recently I had the opportunity to be involved in a forum discussion about the frustrations for women in leadership today. When the conversation got going it quickly turned into anger about their work environment, inequality and the lack of personal value that was felt.


There is so much passion and heart innately in women, heart in the commitment to do a great job at being the best we can be as an executive at work, a wife and mother at home, as a caregiver in life even if it leaves us with little time and energy left over for ourselves.


Women are wired differently than most men and we have the capacity for great vision, a compassionate vision that comes from what we Know deep within our souls. If we have the tools to get really clear on that vision and are able to communicate with emotional intelligence and healthy co-creative business skills, the world will change to support that vision.


Being able to create a business through leadership that builds trust and feeds the strengths of each member, you will enable an authentic community based in self-empowerment and personal responsibility among your team. Expanding your personal intuition gives you the needed insight to read non-verbal communication, thereby leading in a way that supports the ebb and flow occurring everyday, and through a set of simple tools you can learn how to gain a vast amount of information that you currently miss through the intellect alone.


After working with over a thousand women through my own business in creating retreats, as well as multiple thousands of corporate teams and leaders over twenty years creating performance improvement for businesses in fortune 500 companies, I have learned what cripples women, both personally and professionally in organizations and how, if we really want to make a difference and create a world that thrives, we can make the change we truly want and need to see.


I understand these truths:


1) To co-facilitate with the Universe is a humbling place to align life and career.


2) When given the proper tools and an empowering vibrational space to expand our Be-ingness, each of us finds our divine connection that holds the secrets and gifts to create the life and career that brings us inspiration and joy.


3) There is a short path and a long path to thriving and finding personal fulfillment in this world, either way you will get there if that is your desire. I have no attachment to anyone’s path but my own.


4) Most of us were never taught how to modulate or effectively use our own energy and can either end up overstepping, causing separation and distrust, or getting lost in the shuffle and aggression of others. This is what causes dysfunction and ultimately dis-ease of an individual or an organization.


5) When you learn how to effectively work with your own energy and vibration of others, you greatly improve all your relationships at home and at work. From there positive energy ripples out into the world and it is contagious.


6) The gifts that the horses and I bring are but one part of a greater journey to awakening the divine light of the leader that is within us all. As a horse and human facilitating team, we teach at a cellular level, organic with each client, and from there the sky is the limit.

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Barbara_Alexander_thumbnailBarbara Alexander is President and Founder of The Sacred You Academy at Epona Ridge – a magical place where women have come for years to gain insight about their inner lives and seek a greater awareness of their hearts’ true calling. Barbara serves as their mentor and guide as her retreat participants go through their individual journeys towards true happiness, joy and inner peace.

Barbara has worked with over a thousand people as a spiritual life and business coach, teaching transformational techniques that shift core energy awareness providing a more joyous life experience.

After many years of a successful career as a business executive, Barbara has dedicated her personal and professional life to mentoring women and men, in building their life as well as their business with a stronger foundation for wellbeing and personal fulfillment.

Barbara provides techniques for enhancing the mind/body connection, personal core energy awareness and personal empowerment. You will love the feelings of rejuvenation and inspiration that you experience at the Epona Ridge Retreats.

Barbara Alexander

Epona Ridge LLC

Asheville, NC

For more information: http://www.EponaRidge.com


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